Had a very difficult week this week.
Me and David have been like ships that pass in the night.
I arrive home late, eat the meals he has cooked, drink a glass of wine and promptly fall asleep in front of the TV! Hubby has been supportive and gave me a foot massage yesterday evening which was lovely.
Still, nearly Friday and I'm determined to get back in the saddle and have some fun with him.
I want to begin pushing him further on the Femdom front and have a few ideas brewing.
Must keep him on his toes!
Thursday 8 December 2011
Tuesday 6 December 2011
Sunday Punishment - part 2
I know the effects this paddle can have on him but I still wasn't prepared to hold back.
I told him that he would struggle to sit down for a few days and that the strokes were going to be as hard as I could make them and he must be still and bear them as best he could. I'm a fairly large lady and I can and do hit hard.
To be honest I was still angry with him from our argument the previous week and told him he would pay today for his insolence. That, together with feeling a little premenstrual, was a bad combination, I knew.
He also needs to realise that there is a zero-tolerance policy in place and that no matter how much he may disagree with me, he must never, ever talk back.
Sometimes you just need to be cruel to be kind.
I always begin with a good hard spanking of maybe 20-30 slaps on each cheek, just to tenderise them nicely (these don't count towards the total).
Even after the first three strokes of the paddle on his left buttock there was a large crimson ring developing and beginning to go a little purple in the middle. He moved at three and I needed to begin again. By the end, he had taken 16 strokes in all (well I had to be even handed on each side!)
But he bore the pain quite well, albeit with a little whimpering. My heart melted slightly at the end but I was not about to show any softening at this point.
I again turned round and offered my bottom to him and he stumbled off the trestle to kiss it lovingly once more.
He then had one hour's corner time, at which point I returned to the room and we returned to normality.
Well, our own particular kind of normality.
I told him that he would struggle to sit down for a few days and that the strokes were going to be as hard as I could make them and he must be still and bear them as best he could. I'm a fairly large lady and I can and do hit hard.
To be honest I was still angry with him from our argument the previous week and told him he would pay today for his insolence. That, together with feeling a little premenstrual, was a bad combination, I knew.
He also needs to realise that there is a zero-tolerance policy in place and that no matter how much he may disagree with me, he must never, ever talk back.
Sometimes you just need to be cruel to be kind.
I always begin with a good hard spanking of maybe 20-30 slaps on each cheek, just to tenderise them nicely (these don't count towards the total).
Even after the first three strokes of the paddle on his left buttock there was a large crimson ring developing and beginning to go a little purple in the middle. He moved at three and I needed to begin again. By the end, he had taken 16 strokes in all (well I had to be even handed on each side!)
But he bore the pain quite well, albeit with a little whimpering. My heart melted slightly at the end but I was not about to show any softening at this point.
I again turned round and offered my bottom to him and he stumbled off the trestle to kiss it lovingly once more.
He then had one hour's corner time, at which point I returned to the room and we returned to normality.
Well, our own particular kind of normality.
Sunday morning oral duties
Sunday has to be my favourite day. After a stressful week, it takes me the whole of Saturday just to wind down. But Saturday evening was lovely. Was treated to a soothing all over body massage and fell into a dreamless sleep.
Awoke feeling extremely horny. I often am on a Sunday when mentally planing for his weekly punishment session.
My signal for hubby is two sharp raps on the head. He knows exactly what that means! This morning he struggled to wake but groggily and dutifully made his way under the bed covers for what he knows I like best - oral duty and lots of it.
He expertly slipped me out of my knickers and got to work servicing me with his lovely tongue. I like it long a slow in the morning and he knows he must take his time! I can keep him down there for 30 minutes of longer. He must service the whole of my pussy from top to bottom and side to side. He only homes in on my clitoris when I am absolutely ready. I confess I'm a bit of a gusher and hubby does well to keep up!
During my climax I was a little rough with him as I recall. His face was a bright red picture afterwards!
As part of our ritual, I always make him lick and tongue my anus afterwards. I will either simply pull back my knees to my chest or as I prefer and did this morning I threw off the covers and turned over on all fours - much more comfortable and gives me so much more control over him: I can push him down and sit on his face to get much deeper penetration of his tongue, which I definitely needed this morning.
Bottom worship, or anilingus is a big part of reinforcing the whole dynamic of our relationship, along with feet worship and toilet duties. It confirms his status in the relationship and constantly reminds him who's boss. I think of my bottom as his place in the pecking order! Plus I enjoy it - to my surprise I can actually achieve fantastic orgasms this way.
Awoke feeling extremely horny. I often am on a Sunday when mentally planing for his weekly punishment session.
My signal for hubby is two sharp raps on the head. He knows exactly what that means! This morning he struggled to wake but groggily and dutifully made his way under the bed covers for what he knows I like best - oral duty and lots of it.
He expertly slipped me out of my knickers and got to work servicing me with his lovely tongue. I like it long a slow in the morning and he knows he must take his time! I can keep him down there for 30 minutes of longer. He must service the whole of my pussy from top to bottom and side to side. He only homes in on my clitoris when I am absolutely ready. I confess I'm a bit of a gusher and hubby does well to keep up!
During my climax I was a little rough with him as I recall. His face was a bright red picture afterwards!
As part of our ritual, I always make him lick and tongue my anus afterwards. I will either simply pull back my knees to my chest or as I prefer and did this morning I threw off the covers and turned over on all fours - much more comfortable and gives me so much more control over him: I can push him down and sit on his face to get much deeper penetration of his tongue, which I definitely needed this morning.
Bottom worship, or anilingus is a big part of reinforcing the whole dynamic of our relationship, along with feet worship and toilet duties. It confirms his status in the relationship and constantly reminds him who's boss. I think of my bottom as his place in the pecking order! Plus I enjoy it - to my surprise I can actually achieve fantastic orgasms this way.
Monday 5 December 2011
Sunday Punishment - Part 1
I decided to begin his punishment after lunch this Sunday. Hubby had made me a wonderful plate of scrambled eggs on toast. He of course hadn't eaten since last night. I think it's important to come to a punishment hungry.
He had expertly painted my nails a lovely deep cherry red after breakfast and generally pampered me, in between his chores. I think he was hoping for some leniency or even maybe a reprieve - some chance!
I summoned him and told him to go to the spare room, undress and wait for me there. He nervously nodded and gingerly made his way upstairs.
I had already totted up his demerits to ten, calculated as follows:
Lack of attention to oral duties on Wednesday - 3 demerits
Talking back to me on Thursday (very serious) - 5 demerits
Lack of attention to the dusting - 2 demerits
When I finally attended him, he was, as is always required, on his knees, totally naked and shivering slightly. God, I love Sundays!
I offer him my bottom which he kissed respectfully at which point we made a start.
I like to vary the punishments and decided that today would be a paddling day - I was feeling particularly cruel. I recently purchased a particularly heavy paddle, which he absolutely hates! It does leave terrible marks. However, what's the point in a punishment if he enjoys it??
We have a low trestle, which I told him to prostrate himself over at which point I began. If he moves, I start over - he learned that lesson the hard way.
He had expertly painted my nails a lovely deep cherry red after breakfast and generally pampered me, in between his chores. I think he was hoping for some leniency or even maybe a reprieve - some chance!
I summoned him and told him to go to the spare room, undress and wait for me there. He nervously nodded and gingerly made his way upstairs.
I had already totted up his demerits to ten, calculated as follows:
Lack of attention to oral duties on Wednesday - 3 demerits
Talking back to me on Thursday (very serious) - 5 demerits
Lack of attention to the dusting - 2 demerits
When I finally attended him, he was, as is always required, on his knees, totally naked and shivering slightly. God, I love Sundays!
I offer him my bottom which he kissed respectfully at which point we made a start.
I like to vary the punishments and decided that today would be a paddling day - I was feeling particularly cruel. I recently purchased a particularly heavy paddle, which he absolutely hates! It does leave terrible marks. However, what's the point in a punishment if he enjoys it??
We have a low trestle, which I told him to prostrate himself over at which point I began. If he moves, I start over - he learned that lesson the hard way.
The Joys of a Female Led Relationship
Before we embarked on a fully fledged femdom relationship, I believe I was living and unfulfilled existence. I always felt that something was missing.
I had my usual set of female insecurities and used to worry about my weight, stress about my looks whether I was still attractive to my husband.
All that has changed now. My husband, David, is now more attentive, constantly pays me compliments and he looks after my every need both physically and spiritually.
We also communicate much more than we ever used to and I would say I knew him more intimately in the first year of our new found status than I did in the first three year's of our marriage.
It's like I emerged from a cocoon the day we formalised our female-led relationship; it was like everything became clear.
How wonderful, every married woman out there must try it.
It takes work, from both parties, and constant reinforcement, but by golly it's worth it!
I had my usual set of female insecurities and used to worry about my weight, stress about my looks whether I was still attractive to my husband.
All that has changed now. My husband, David, is now more attentive, constantly pays me compliments and he looks after my every need both physically and spiritually.
We also communicate much more than we ever used to and I would say I knew him more intimately in the first year of our new found status than I did in the first three year's of our marriage.
It's like I emerged from a cocoon the day we formalised our female-led relationship; it was like everything became clear.
How wonderful, every married woman out there must try it.
It takes work, from both parties, and constant reinforcement, but by golly it's worth it!
Sunday 27 November 2011
Saturday Evening - Bliss!
Had a dreamless sleep last night after a wonderful massage from hubby.
He ran a bath for me first and afterwards I laid on the bed and received a full body massage complete with Jasmine oils.
There is nothing quite like a long, slow massage last thing.
I was in heaven and after an hour I promptly rolled into bed.
Sunday is punishment day for hubby so I need my rest.
I make him fast for anything up to 24 hours from Saturday evening so he comes to the punishment hungry. He tells me it's very hard for him to do this, but I insist on this routine every week as it helps not only to reinforce my dominance, but also adds to his sense of apprehension. Not only that, but it helps keep his weight down!
He says it can make him quite light-headed and feels all the more nervous by the time the punishment comes around, which is exactly what I want.
Remember hearing my husband's tummy rumbling throughout massage!
Made me smile. Ah to be a domme!
He ran a bath for me first and afterwards I laid on the bed and received a full body massage complete with Jasmine oils.
There is nothing quite like a long, slow massage last thing.
I was in heaven and after an hour I promptly rolled into bed.
Sunday is punishment day for hubby so I need my rest.
I make him fast for anything up to 24 hours from Saturday evening so he comes to the punishment hungry. He tells me it's very hard for him to do this, but I insist on this routine every week as it helps not only to reinforce my dominance, but also adds to his sense of apprehension. Not only that, but it helps keep his weight down!
He says it can make him quite light-headed and feels all the more nervous by the time the punishment comes around, which is exactly what I want.
Remember hearing my husband's tummy rumbling throughout massage!
Made me smile. Ah to be a domme!
Saturday 26 November 2011
Initial Musings on a Female-led marriage
Hi! I wanted to begin my first blog on female-led relationships by first introducing myself. I am a forty-something Wife with a loving husband who takes care of my every need, both spiritually and physically. Whether it's a morning massage, oral duties or simply just a well thought compliment, he is kept on his toes at all times.
My expectation of him is for his every waking moment to be dedicated only to me. Simple as that.
From the moment he wakes up he must begin pampering me and fulfilling my every wish.
My husband is 10 years younger than me, and to an extent, we have always had a rather one-sided relationship. However, it is only in the past 2 years that I have formalised it into a fully-fledged femdom relationship. 24/7? Not quite. We do have some 'downtime'. But by God he knows when I'm back in the game!
I believe it's important to constantly communicate, to reinforce my superiority and to keep raising the bar. This can mean getting quite creative at times!
My husband, I'm sure like most other men, was becoming lazy and a little inattentive to Me. The crunch time came when he lost his job 2 years ago and it was decided that I would become the sole breadwinner.
Becoming a house-husband completely changed the dynamics of our relationship. He now performs all the daily household chores and I don't even have to lift a finger. How marvelous!
I love him for never complaining about his work around the house; but I still push him - when he's completed his household duties, his duties switch to ME!
I will be sharing our (up to now!) private world with you over the coming weeks and months and I hope you find it useful.
To me Female-led marriage is about the whole package, taking charge of every aspect.
And to all you Wives out there who are frustrated by your lazy man (whatever happened to the man I first met I hear you cry!) , I hope to show you there is another and MUCH BETTER way!
My expectation of him is for his every waking moment to be dedicated only to me. Simple as that.
From the moment he wakes up he must begin pampering me and fulfilling my every wish.
My husband is 10 years younger than me, and to an extent, we have always had a rather one-sided relationship. However, it is only in the past 2 years that I have formalised it into a fully-fledged femdom relationship. 24/7? Not quite. We do have some 'downtime'. But by God he knows when I'm back in the game!
I believe it's important to constantly communicate, to reinforce my superiority and to keep raising the bar. This can mean getting quite creative at times!
My husband, I'm sure like most other men, was becoming lazy and a little inattentive to Me. The crunch time came when he lost his job 2 years ago and it was decided that I would become the sole breadwinner.
Becoming a house-husband completely changed the dynamics of our relationship. He now performs all the daily household chores and I don't even have to lift a finger. How marvelous!
I love him for never complaining about his work around the house; but I still push him - when he's completed his household duties, his duties switch to ME!
I will be sharing our (up to now!) private world with you over the coming weeks and months and I hope you find it useful.
To me Female-led marriage is about the whole package, taking charge of every aspect.
And to all you Wives out there who are frustrated by your lazy man (whatever happened to the man I first met I hear you cry!) , I hope to show you there is another and MUCH BETTER way!
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